Anger
is an emotion that conveys, telling us that a situation is upsetting, unjust,
or threatening. Anger is an active manifestation of sadness. We need to Identify
and eliminate our sorrow before we can confront our anger.
Anger
is an extension of ego
and whenever we act with anger, deep within us, we will actually be feeling
sad. Therefore, anger is an active form of sadness. Or to put in context, sadness
is a passive form of anger. When we cannot express our anger, we feel sad
within. So, whether we are sad, or angry, we only need to ask ourselves one
question, “What is it that I am sad about?”
Anger
could be detrimental to both our emotional and physical health. When we are angry our
body goes through some physiological and biological changes. Our heart rate
quickens and our blood pressure spikes. Our body also releases hormones like
adrenaline and noradrenaline leading to High blood pressure, depression, anxiety,
insomnia, gastric ulcers, diabetes, etc.
When
we feel angry in a situation, where in, we have been mistreated or wronged, people
around us could be too sensitive and might get hurt and could lead them to
be disheartened and leave them in tears. Also, leading to negative impact on
the way people perceive us and may get in the way of our growth and success.
If
anger is an expression of sadness, removing sadness will automatically do away
with anger. But the important question is, ‘How do we get over our sadness?’ An
easy answer would be, ‘By nurturing happiness.’
We
have an opportunity to be happy or to be sad. Some tips to be happy – live
in present, count your blessings, be kind to yourself, challenge negative
thoughts, meditate, meet with friends, practice gratitude, exercise, think
rationally instead of emotionally, build a positive support system, etc.
We
could also reconcile opposites - try liking what we dislike. While this may not
be easy to practice, however, it can free ourselves from unprofitable bondages to
inner freedom. If we can finally free from these, we will have risen above our
anger; no longer a victim to anger, sadness, or self-pity.
The
way we need to respond should be controlled by us, we cannot give the control
to anyone to press our buttons and make us feel angry. It’s like someone
controlling us through a remote control.
Identify
ways to be happy to avoid anger and identify your Purpose of Life.
